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to Grow Your Aloha at Home

Raising children is hard. Learn tips on how to practice Aloha at Home to make the job easier. Activities on an approach called Serve and Return as well as other activities can be found below. Each short activity can be done in five easy steps or about 10 minutes. Try some activities and bring Aloha into your home.

Caregiver / Parent ActivitiesKeiki Activities

Serve and Return

What is Serve and Return? When your child smiles at you, and you smile back, that is Serve and Return. When your older child or another adult seems sad, and you take the time to sit with them and chat when they are ready, this is Serve and Return. Even adults need to help practicing Serve and Return. Think about Serve and Return as a lively game of ping-pong, showing that caregivers are sensitive and responsive to signals and needs of those around them. Serve and Return builds healthy relationships and strong brain architecture to last a lifetime. In five easy steps, you can practice Serve and Return.

5 Easy Steps to Serve and Return



Notice what the other person (child, partner, adult) is doing or feeling, and share your attention with them. They are "serving" a thought, feeling, question, or reaction to you. Notice the serve. 



"Return" this "Serve" by encouraging them. You might say, "Keep going. That looks good," or "I'm here for you." In some cases, encouragement might not even have words but is quiet support you can send through your body language and presence. 


Name What Is Happening

Name what you are focusing your attention on. You might say, "I see you are building blocks," or "I notice you put your backpack away." You can also help identify feelings like "I see you look upset" or "Wow, you seem so excited."


Wait & Take Turns

Take turns by waiting for the other person to do something (notice), practice ENCOURAGING, and NAMING once again. Keep the interaction going as long as they remain focused.


Endings & Beginnings

Acknowledge when their actions start, continue, or ends. You might say, "I see you are done playing with blocks. Now you are playing with cars," or "It seems like you were sad, but now you look like you are feeling little better. I'll be here for you when you need me."

Aloha Activities for Caregivers & Parents

Caregivers can’t help others if they can’t help themselves first. Showing ALOHA to yourself helps those around you, so that you can be there for your keiki, loved ones, and those in your care. Don’t know where to start? Try some of these activities that will get you started with showing ALOHA to yourself. Each activity is done in five easy steps and takes about 10 minutes.

Activity: Parents Connecting

Activity: Parents Connecting

Practice parent to parent (or caregiver to caregiver) connection. Make it a priority to listen to and support each other.

Activity: Schedule Self-Care for Parents

Activity: Schedule Self-Care for Parents

We schedule time to get children ready for school, time to buy food, time to brush our teeth, but do we schedule time for our own self-care activities? Learn how in this short 10 min activity.

Activity: Parents at Their Best

Activity: Parents at Their Best

Parents and caregivers can give the gift of Akahai – Kindness and resilience to themselves in this short activity. Burn out is a real thing.

Aloha Activities for Keiki

Looking for activities for your keiki (children), loved ones, or those in your care? Use these activities to bring ALOHA into your home. When keiki and loved ones are emotionally connected to you, ALOHA flows, creating a sense of harmony.  Each activity is done in five easy steps and takes about 10 minutes.

Family Hui Activities

Family Hui Activities

Family Hui presents ʻohana activities for keiki on Aloha at Home. These free activities are done by age groups and downloadable.

Activity: Chores for Children

Activity: Chores for Children

Engage & include children with what you are doing as an adult so you can see where your children are in their understanding & development.

Virtual Story Time

Virtual Story Time

Whether it is virtual story time, an online reading challenge for your children, or imagine a story with your LEGO, the Hawaii State Public